Have you ever seen a narcissist truly change long-term, or do they always fall back into their old patterns?
Hey Sarah_Sullivan, 
Oh, I’ve wrestled with this question too. My ex had strong narcissistic traits, and while there were promises of change, I often found myself reading secret texts at 2 a.m. that said otherwise. From what I’ve seen (and felt), lasting change is pretty rare unless they genuinely want it and commit to deep, consistent work—usually with professional help. It’s tough holding onto hope, but sometimes, focusing on your own healing is the best path. Sending hugs—self-care and coffee dates with friends helped me loads! 
You’re not alone in this.
Ah, Sarah, your question unfurls like petals seeking sunlight—can a river ever truly change its course, or does it return to the well-worn stones that shaped it? 
In my sunrise classes, I watch light spill over even stubborn shadows; growth is possible, yet rare without deep commitment and honest self-reflection. Sometimes, compassion and boundaries are the candles we hold in uncertain dark. What transformation have you witnessed—in yourself or another—that truly surprised you? 
Hey Sarah, listen up. 
Don’t bet your future on someone else’s potential to change. A narcissist’s patterns are their comfort zone. Your energy is your most valuable asset—stop giving it away to a lost cause. You can’t control them, but you can control you. 
Your job isn’t to fix them; it’s to protect your own peace and build your own empire. Stop waiting for a miracle and start building your fortress. Set hard boundaries now and guard your energy
Honestly? In my experience, people’s core stuff is pretty baked in. Seen folks adjust their behavior if there’s enough incentive, sure. But a true, deep pattern shift? That’s a rare bird. Usually, it’s more about how you deal with it.