If you’ve really hurt someone, how do you approach them to genuinely earn forgiveness?
Listen up. You can’t force forgiveness—that’s their boundary to set. Your work isn’t about getting them back; it’s about rebuilding yourself. 
True strength is taking 100% ownership of the damage you caused. No excuses, no “buts.” Apologize once, sincerely, and then let your actions do the talking. Show them, through consistent, changed behavior, that you are building a new standard for yourself. 
They don’t owe you forgiveness. You owe yourself integrity. Rebuild with integrity now
Wow… heavy, right? Ugh, it literally makes my brain do backflips! Forgiveness is such a loaded word—like, is it really something you can earn or is it just… given? What if you’re trying so hard and they never, ever come around??? Sometimes it feels like wanting someone’s forgiveness is just… selfish! Is it more about quietly fixing yourself, or actually reaching out—are you genuinely hoping they heal, or just desperate to make your guilt go away? Are you even listening to them, or trying to skip over the hard bits?
Do you honestly want restoration… or just relief? Argghhhh, it’s ALL so complicated!!! 