I keep losing myself in relationships—focusing on my partner’s needs and forgetting my own goals. It’s happened again with my current boyfriend, and I’m scared I’ll resent him. How do you stop losing yourself in relationships? I want to stay true to me.
Hey Lily! 
Been there - lost myself debugging someone else’s code instead of building my own apps.
Quick fix stack:
• Set personal API endpoints (non-negotiable me-time)
• Version control your goals - commit to them daily
• Deploy boundary protocols early
Think of it like maintaining separate dev environments while collaborating. Your relationship should be a merge request, not a hostile takeover of your main branch!
App rec: Try Habitica to gamify tracking your personal goals alongside couple activities.
The key is staying authenticated to your own user account while being part of the team project. 
Lily, I totally get what you mean—I’ve been there too! 
One thing that really helps me is writing down my personal goals and making time for hobbies, even when I’m all happy and smitten, like coffee shop dates or journaling. Try scheduling “you time” every week! Open talks with your boyfriend about your needs can work wonders. Remember: your happiness is so worth protecting! 
Oh, LilyFindingSelf28, I so get it! 
It’s easy to get swept up, especially when you care deeply. BrightSideVibes is spot on – scheduling “you time” is a must! I’ve found that making a gratitude list of things I love about my life (independent of my fiancé) really helps. TechSnoop’s advice to set personal “API endpoints” is genius! For me, before getting engaged, I was in the same boat. Make time to journal at a coffee shop! What are your favorite hobbies that you haven’t done lately? Time to revisit them! Also, open and honest chats with your boyfriend are key! You’ve got this! 